“Don’t waste energy trying to cover up failure, learn from the next challenge. It’s okay to fail, if you’re not failing you are not growing.” (-h. Stanley Judd)
certainly all people like to think of themselves as above average. But achievers seem to leave “average” in the dust so far behind them that ordinary seems a distant memory.
what makes the difference why do some people achieve so much? What makes achievers excel? Why does some people skyrocket why others plummet? You know what am talking about. You can called it luck, blessing or mindas touch. But none of this is the key, when it come to you write it down. no not one among then it the key, I know only one factor that separate those who consistent shine from those who don’t. The difference between average people and achieving people, its there perception and response to failure. In his book failing forward. John C Maxwell write about an experiment that was conducted with a group of monkeys. By professor Gary hemel and c.k prahalad.
he said, four monkeys were placed in a room that had a tall pole in the center suspended from the top of that pole was a bunch of bananas, one of the hungry monkeys started climbing the pole to get something to eat but just as he reached out to grab a banana, he was doused with a torrent of cold water. Squealing, he scrampared down the pole and abandoned his attempt to feed himself. Each monkey made similar attempt and each was drenched with cold water after making several attempts, they finally gave up.
Then reseachers removed one of the monkeys from the room and replaced him with a new monkey, as the newcomer began to climb the pole, the other three grabbs him and pulled him down to the ground. After trying to climb the pole several times and being dragged down. By the others, he finally gave up and never attempted to climb the pole again.
The reseachers replaced the original monkeys one by one. And each time a new monkey was brought in, he would be dragged down by the others before he could reach the bananas. In time the room was feel with monkeys who has never received shower’s. None of them could climb the pole but none of then knows why.
The class of people which I name, they can never succeed are like those monkeys. They make same mistake again and again, yet they are never quite sure why, and they has no result, they never seems to achieves what they desire, but they don’t know wh?. They see obstacles or errors as somebody else faults and not as result, and they then response in one or more of the above ways.
(1) stubbornly plowing ahead.”Try, then stop and think, then try again.” Particularly stubborn people sometimes try to leave their troubles behind by working harder and faster, but without. Changing their direction. They are like the person trying to get the square peg in the round hole who first tries to place the peg in the hole then tries to shove it in, then take a hammer and tries to pound it in. They’re working hard but getting nowhere.
(2) angrily overract: Nineteenth century English author. Charles buxton summed it up: “bad temper is it’s own scourge, few things are more bitter than to feel bitter. “A man venom, poison himself more than his victim” if a person doesn’t govern it temper it will govern him. People makes a minor mistakes and then angrily overract to it. Talking out their frustration on themselves or others around them.
(3)cover up: it’s nature of to try to cover up their mistakes, that tendency is as old as Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden_and it’s usually just has successful for us today as it was for then, it’s okay to fail, if you’re not failing, you’re not growing,” anyone who want to get off the failure freeway need to “fess up” rather than cover up.
(4) trying to justify the remark: General Parton c. March perceived,” “any man worth his salt will stick up for what he believes right, but it takes slightly bigger man to acknowledge instantly and without reservation that he is an error,” have you ever been talking with someone who made a thoughtless remark during a conversation, and as soon as he said it, you could tell he knew he had made a mistake? Yet when you called him on it, he refused to admit it. No matter what you said, he kept backing up and justifying is remark which make him look sillier. And there are also quiters who never steaks to there assignment, and people that portral all this qualities never mount-up to any thing